Want to change the world?

I have a very bad habit... I like to use the word- " stupid". The word automatically will come out from my mouth whatever i try to comment something. The worst thing is - i don't even realize i use this word so frequent until my spouse remind me.

Something that is important that we always forget - My husband remind me. One day, our children will follow your footstep and say everything is - " stupid". It was an ironic statement for me. Almost everything that i dislike it, i will put the "stupid" word on it. It doesn't matter what i am talking about, i will just say it. It become so automatically and naturally. He was right that children will imitate the parent behavior and speech because parent are the role model for the children in their early childhood. He gave me some example that the child may use.

"Mommy, the uncle so "stupid" digging the nose in the car."

"Daddy, mommy so "stupid" ..."

We burst into laughter after we thought of many examples our child may use in the future. It is true that I still follow some of my parent habits. It is so difficult to correct it because the habits are unnoticeable. It show me that my parent really influence me a lot during my childhood. We must be very careful and aware when we behave ourselves in front our children. We can say it but don't make it as a habit.

Just imagine that when our children at school, the teacher ask the student to make a comment. Our children will just answer with " stupid" spontaneously. How can parent expect children to change if we are the one who started it and using it? It is like the father who is a smoker asking the son quit smoking. So, we better change all the bad habits before we have children. If we want our children to be a good person, first of all we must start to change ourselves. We can't change other people. We only can change ourselves or change our mindset of thinking.

It is the same thing if we apply in our friends and family. We always wanted to change our family and friends and think it is the best for them. The reality is - we can't change anyone except we change ourselves first. Everyone is unique. It is very hard to change the habits because the implant in us since we are young or since past life. We cannot force people to change but we can try to change ourselves once we aware that we have bad habits or change our mindset to view the world in different angle. No one is perfect in this world, that is why the world is beautiful.

" Want to change the world?
first, change yourself."

Money back guarantee

Know your right on the things you have purchase...you can get your money back if you are not satisfied. this is a story from a friend of mine.

I concur this message about Tribunal court claims. To support this story, let me tell u guys about my experience two months ago.

I bought a robotic floor vacuum cleaner for slightly over rm1000 after believing the sales talk and seeing it perform live on the counter top. It seemed to do whatever was promised there and then. So, I got one for myself after that.

After trying it out for 4 days at home, I was totally dissapointed and fed-up with the unit in terms of performance output and convenience of use. So, I brought it back to the outlet in 1-Utamafor a refund. Of course their 1st reaction was to persuade you to exchange it for some other electrical appliances but I insisted on a refund only. They stood firm and refused my request. So, I did exactly like what was said in this e-mail, I told them that I will bring this issue to the Tribunal Tuntutan Pengguna Malaysia and file a court case against them. Immediately, the supervisor called his boss and after repeating the same speech to him myself throught the phone, he relented and gave me back my money in full.

So, guys n gals out there, know your rights and STAND BY IT! I did...and I got back my hard earned money - rm1000!

Contract Law In MALAYSIA

Legal Issue on Contract Law in Malaysia - Good for us to know

This is something I like to share with you from one of my seminar recently. If you find this informative, pls circulate. It was conducted by A/P Catherine Tay on Legal issues in E-commerce.

Notice that most of the time, the receipt / invoice you received from the merchant carries this exclusion clause or similarly worded statement: 'Goods sold are not returnable' or 'No refund once sold'.

The thing that I have learnt from her is that : 'As long as your good is purchased for home use and not for business ( i.e. to be resold), the above exclusion clause is VOID.

That means, as long as the good is defective, regardless of what is worded, you CAN get back all your money spent. You do not have to accept a repair on the good or an exchange. You CAN ask for a refund. AND you are LEGALLY right and entitled to! What a relevation!!

And most of the time the merchant will refuse to return you your money.

Her advice? >From her own experience (and no less than 7 and all successful!) , she will threaten the merchant with four words: 'SEE YOU IN COURT!'

The court here refers to the Small Claims Tribunal Court .

However, you don't have to tell them what court! All you have to pay is RM10 admin fee and the loser (the merchant) will have to refund you the money PLUS the admin fee!

She shared this with us because she felt that even educated people are cowed by such unfair wordings (which includes her jaded friends who are not lawyers).

Pls try not to let the merchant fleece you the next time you have a defective good.

I know where to file this. On the 16th floor of Putra Place (The Mall opposite Putra World Trade Centre). The form cost RM5.00. The Tribunal will settle within 2 months period.

Tribunal Tuntutan Pengguna Malaysia ,
Tingkat 16, Putra Place ,
100, Jalan Putra ,
50622 KUALA LUMPUR
Tel: 03 - 40492300 / 40424181 Fax: 03 - 40424259

Survey. Compare. Save

After so many months of saving, finally we had enough money to buy a washing machine. Before we decided to buy a washing machine, we went to many supermarkets to do survey on the price and the benefit of buying. This is one of the method to save money.

Before of deciding to buy any item:

1.you must go many shops and places to survey the price and the benefit of buying the item. What are the benefit you must consider?There are: -

• how many year of the warranty given?
• free of delivery charge?

2. Is better we buy a item that is near to the headquarter of the item, then it will be easier if the item need to send for repair.

3. the 3rd factor is quite depend on the buyer, the factor is " the delivery time". Some of the place can deliver to your house the same day or the next day. Some of the shop need 3 days to deliver to your house because the storage place is quite far.


So, there are the 3 points that we always use before we really decided to buy an item. Hope it is useful for all of you all. Don't forget to " Survey, Compare" then buy. It will help you save money.

Hijack???

Yesterday i went for a interesting course, these was the 4th class that i had attended. The class was about Emotional Intelligence.

We always heard people said we must think before we act. Honestly, do we really think before we act? Or most of the time we are influence by our emotion? For example, when we heard about Mega sales or promotion, how do we feel? Another example, when we scolded or blame by other party, what come to our mind first? Ya, angry and wanted to scold back the person. Then, the emotional come first. There are a lot of things happen in the daily life, if we recall and think properly, our emotional come first. We seldom and rarely will think before we act.

There was a new words i learned during the course- Amygdala Hijacks. Amygdala Hijacks mean---- we respond to the condition before we think. My speaker told us most of us, everyday 99% we will experience Amygdala Hijacks. We all will respond before we think. What is Amygdala? Amygdala is a part of our brain. The function of Amygdala just found out this 5-6 years. What is the function? Amygdala is the site of our emotion and also a site of "fight and flight" respond. All our emotional come from Amygdala.

I do agree that i have Amygdala Hijacks everyday. For example, if the food i cook didn't turn out to be nice, i will be disappointed and angry why i can't cook well. In this condition, i have "hijack" again. I had influence by my emotion. I should think in a positive way, " at least i know one of the bad cooking method. i can try other cooking method." Then my mood would not be affected. Everyday will be "Hijack". Sometime i don't even realize that i am influence by my emotion. The respond is being repeated so many years until it had become my habit. Automatically respond to the surrounding.

There is something that we will always affected by our emotion- when we scold or blame or angry by other people. How do we feel? Sure, i will feel angry. If i was being blame blindly, i will scold and fight back. If i did wrong, i still feel very angry with the person. The worst respond, is may be few of us will end up beat the person. What is all this indicating? It is all our emotion. If we think properly, who is the one is angry in this condition? Ya, is the person who scold, angry or blaming us. So, the person is angry, why we should react and why we should angry. All this is Amygdala hijack.

So, how to deal with the "Hijack"? We must always aware our emotion. We must always ask why we angry? why we have hatred? Always think before we react to our surrounding. Of course it is very difficult. We can slowly train ourselves. We know that we always influence by our emotion. So, we must always aware what is the trigger and try to deal it differently. We can cultivate and nurture more positive values, like compassion, loving kindness, joy and equanimity. Other than that, we always must be aware our bad habits, slowly improve ourselves.

Don't be upset you still having "hijack", it is normal. It is good enough as long as your total of "hijack" reduce everyday.


" suffering arises from our own untamed minds,
to find genuine happiness,
discipline the mind and eliminate the negative states. "

My Past- will pass.

We usually will realize and regret when the end of day come. I always heard people said, " human will tell the true before they die." And a lot of things happen in the pass that was undone or unfinished. All unveil before we close up our eyes forever.

However, it is good we can recall the things that happen in the pass. I only have my own time after i had been graduated from university. I have being disappearing for so long with my school friend. I never had time to join the gathering, sometime once in a blue moon. There was always had a lot of reasons about busying in my study. Finally i start to keep track with them. When i started to surf the net and open up all my email. I found out i hardly keep in touch with my list of friends in the email contact list. Surprisingly, i was outdated because i had not join the current famous network " facebook".

When i started to use it, it really give me a lot of surprise. I managed to find friends and the most amazing is ---- I found someone that really special to me during my secondary school. She was my "daughter" during that school time. We stopped contact each other after a "misunderstood". I have a lot of things wanted to tell her especially " sorry". I was glad that I found her and first of the action i took was----- said sorry to her and I hope she still remember me after so many years.

I was so happy that she accepted me back as a friend. Both of us slowly built up our relationship. After that i realized, there are among of us that do not want to look back to the past especially the one had did something wrong and make them shame of the past. So, there are people do not want to meet their old school friends or the person that knew about the "shame" past. Their friend occurrence will give them flashback or trauma to them. I am too have one or 2 friends that i do not wish to meet them again because they had hurt me in the past. Their present will bring back the "pain" again to me.

However, i had the chance to meet back the friend that i never think of seeing him again. He messaged me and arranged a time to meet me. Even though how reluctant I was during that time, i do not know what excuses to use to reject him. Deep inside my heart, i really wish that he will apologize to me. I knew these kind of thinking was kind of "childish". How can I expect a person that we have lost contact for so long come to say sorry to you because of the wrong action in the past.

The date turned out to be 2 strangers talking nothing. We became stranger because we didn't contact and didn't have each other recent update. It was a strange and uncomfortable date. We were best friend before and we had "fight" in the past. 2 of us from 2 totally different world. He had stopped furthering his study and now working. I was still a university student when i met him. It was kind a good experience to meet somebody that you don't wish to meet. We never talked about the past. The "past" was not important at all during the gathering. No anger and hatred between us. Then only i realized all the while i was the one who was angry with him. I was the one who keep all the bad memory. The other party still continue their life when i was angry. I really learn a big lesion from the gathering. Don't let the past hunt us down. Make all the past become our learning lesion. We must learn to treasure the "present". If we keep on thinking about the past, we will lost our present moment and also our future.

Everything happen in the past have pass. This is what i always said, when something dislike happen to us on the present moment, just tell yourself : "This will also pass." All the things happen in the past that make us suffering, a lot of us can't even recall back how badly we hurt and suffered that time. So, what bothering you the most now, never mind- this will also pass.


" Yesterday was a history,
tomorrow is a miracle,
today is a gift, that is why we called it as--- present".