Yesterday i went for a interesting course, these was the 4th class that i had attended. The class was about Emotional Intelligence.
We always heard people said we must think before we act. Honestly, do we really think before we act? Or most of the time we are influence by our emotion? For example, when we heard about Mega sales or promotion, how do we feel? Another example, when we scolded or blame by other party, what come to our mind first? Ya, angry and wanted to scold back the person. Then, the emotional come first. There are a lot of things happen in the daily life, if we recall and think properly, our emotional come first. We seldom and rarely will think before we act.
There was a new words i learned during the course- Amygdala Hijacks. Amygdala Hijacks mean---- we respond to the condition before we think. My speaker told us most of us, everyday 99% we will experience Amygdala Hijacks. We all will respond before we think. What is Amygdala? Amygdala is a part of our brain. The function of Amygdala just found out this 5-6 years. What is the function? Amygdala is the site of our emotion and also a site of "fight and flight" respond. All our emotional come from Amygdala.
I do agree that i have Amygdala Hijacks everyday. For example, if the food i cook didn't turn out to be nice, i will be disappointed and angry why i can't cook well. In this condition, i have "hijack" again. I had influence by my emotion. I should think in a positive way, " at least i know one of the bad cooking method. i can try other cooking method." Then my mood would not be affected. Everyday will be "Hijack". Sometime i don't even realize that i am influence by my emotion. The respond is being repeated so many years until it had become my habit. Automatically respond to the surrounding.
There is something that we will always affected by our emotion- when we scold or blame or angry by other people. How do we feel? Sure, i will feel angry. If i was being blame blindly, i will scold and fight back. If i did wrong, i still feel very angry with the person. The worst respond, is may be few of us will end up beat the person. What is all this indicating? It is all our emotion. If we think properly, who is the one is angry in this condition? Ya, is the person who scold, angry or blaming us. So, the person is angry, why we should react and why we should angry. All this is Amygdala hijack.
So, how to deal with the "Hijack"? We must always aware our emotion. We must always ask why we angry? why we have hatred? Always think before we react to our surrounding. Of course it is very difficult. We can slowly train ourselves. We know that we always influence by our emotion. So, we must always aware what is the trigger and try to deal it differently. We can cultivate and nurture more positive values, like compassion, loving kindness, joy and equanimity. Other than that, we always must be aware our bad habits, slowly improve ourselves.
Don't be upset you still having "hijack", it is normal. It is good enough as long as your total of "hijack" reduce everyday.
" suffering arises from our own untamed minds,
to find genuine happiness,
discipline the mind and eliminate the negative states. "
We always heard people said we must think before we act. Honestly, do we really think before we act? Or most of the time we are influence by our emotion? For example, when we heard about Mega sales or promotion, how do we feel? Another example, when we scolded or blame by other party, what come to our mind first? Ya, angry and wanted to scold back the person. Then, the emotional come first. There are a lot of things happen in the daily life, if we recall and think properly, our emotional come first. We seldom and rarely will think before we act.
There was a new words i learned during the course- Amygdala Hijacks. Amygdala Hijacks mean---- we respond to the condition before we think. My speaker told us most of us, everyday 99% we will experience Amygdala Hijacks. We all will respond before we think. What is Amygdala? Amygdala is a part of our brain. The function of Amygdala just found out this 5-6 years. What is the function? Amygdala is the site of our emotion and also a site of "fight and flight" respond. All our emotional come from Amygdala.
I do agree that i have Amygdala Hijacks everyday. For example, if the food i cook didn't turn out to be nice, i will be disappointed and angry why i can't cook well. In this condition, i have "hijack" again. I had influence by my emotion. I should think in a positive way, " at least i know one of the bad cooking method. i can try other cooking method." Then my mood would not be affected. Everyday will be "Hijack". Sometime i don't even realize that i am influence by my emotion. The respond is being repeated so many years until it had become my habit. Automatically respond to the surrounding.
There is something that we will always affected by our emotion- when we scold or blame or angry by other people. How do we feel? Sure, i will feel angry. If i was being blame blindly, i will scold and fight back. If i did wrong, i still feel very angry with the person. The worst respond, is may be few of us will end up beat the person. What is all this indicating? It is all our emotion. If we think properly, who is the one is angry in this condition? Ya, is the person who scold, angry or blaming us. So, the person is angry, why we should react and why we should angry. All this is Amygdala hijack.
So, how to deal with the "Hijack"? We must always aware our emotion. We must always ask why we angry? why we have hatred? Always think before we react to our surrounding. Of course it is very difficult. We can slowly train ourselves. We know that we always influence by our emotion. So, we must always aware what is the trigger and try to deal it differently. We can cultivate and nurture more positive values, like compassion, loving kindness, joy and equanimity. Other than that, we always must be aware our bad habits, slowly improve ourselves.
Don't be upset you still having "hijack", it is normal. It is good enough as long as your total of "hijack" reduce everyday.
" suffering arises from our own untamed minds,
to find genuine happiness,
discipline the mind and eliminate the negative states. "
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