A long wait

After we decided to keep the dog-" baby",we went to buy a collar, lead, and the chain. We went few pet shop and hope we could find a reasonable prize for the things we plan to buy. However, we didn't know how big is the Baby neck. This is the 1st time i will keep dog, never have a dog in my life before. I don't know how to choose for Baby. I tried to wear the collar to estimate how big is the Baby neck. I know is funny to wear the dog collar but this is the only way to test it. Both of us find out that it is quite uncomfortable to wear a collar for the rest of the life. We feel sorry for the dog but we have to let Baby wear so that we can put our name and phone number. If anything happen to the dog, other people who find him can contact us.

Moreover we went to a bookshop to do some reading about ' how to take care a dog?' and ' how to train a dog?'. Hope it will be useful to us. Even though my spouse had the experience kept dog, but this is the first time he will keep a big dog. It is going to be a new experience to both of us.

The next day we going to fetch Baby, we were so excited that finally we can take him back and in the mean time we worried that we can't take good care of him.

Now all our focus is on the dog. We really hope we can give the best to him. Hope we can become a good parents to him- ' Baby'.

Want or Don't want

Me and my spouse are animal lovers. However, we don't own any pets in the house except the birds staying behind the room holes, a stray cat sleeping under our car every night...We welcome them as our guests in the house. We know we can't own a pet because both of us too busy with works and activities. Another reason was my spouse had an experience of took care of few dogs. He feld deeply sad when the love dogs passed away one by one- is like lossing the beloved in our life. He couldn't take it anymore. Even though we like animals, we can't affort to have one now.

Our neighboor has 4 dogs. We are happy to have them as our neighboor because we can play with them sometime. Recently, they have a cute puppy -is a rottweiler. He is very small and cute little pupply, may be only one or 2 months old. We felt pitty for the puppy because the owner looked the puppy 24 hours in the cage. We seldom see the puppy running outside happily. It is quite sad see the puppy live like this. If we are the owner, we will make sure he can play and run freely. We will train him to be a obedient good dog just like our friend. However, he is not our pet. Everytime, we will call the puppy and pad him. He is so happy to see us. How lovely if he is our dog?

One day, one of the sister called up and asked us, can we help her to keep a 1 year old dog-"rott-shepherd". Both of us like dog but we can't have pet because we always not in the house. We are in the dilemma. Before we went to visit the dog, our mind running with" want? or don't want?" Or " how?". It was a real dilemma for us. We replied the sister that we can't have it. Few days ago, the sister called up again and said still can't find owner for her dog. So, we decided to meet up with the sister and the dog.

However, "want? or don' want" keep running in our mind. We still can't decide. There are a lot of responsibility if we want to have a dog. We must make sure we ready for it. Both of us want the best for the dog. We wish the best for the dog too.

After both of us finished and came back from work, we went to the sister house. She straight away showed us the dog after we arrived. The dogs started to bark at us fiercely. They are the parents of the dog. We still wondering where was the dog. The sister was calling " baby! baby!". At firt, we though the puppy should be very small in size. When the sister pointed to the dog... Wow, it was such a huge dog. When he (male dog) standed up, he already taller than us. Both of us in a sudden shock. However, he is a very handsome, smart friendly dog. Black shinning in colour with super energy. We wondered, both of us already very lazy in exercise, sure we don't have enough energy to play with him.

We had a chat with the owner (sister). She told us that the rules and regulation at her houseing area are not allow to keep more than 3 dogs. So, she had to give away the 1 year old puppy even though she so reluctant. She had tried to reach up few people, however they all couldn't have the dog. Then, she tried to reach us again because she had not one else to reach for. After heard from the sister, we decided to take the dog. We want the best for the dog and don't want the dog ended up badly. Both of us promise to take care the dog. However, the children of the owner didn't know the dog going to give away. We decided to come back another time to take the dog. Bercause we want the family have time to say good bye with the dog. We also need time to prepare our house and buy something for the dog.

We still afraid we can't provide a good and warmth house to the dog. We hope we can take good care of the dog. My spouse had the experience in taking care of the dog but i have none. I just love animal. We are preparing to welcome the dog. We hope we can give the best to the dog. May be this is " blessing in disguise" for us.

how to save money on shopping?

When I was a student, i never knew that it is very hard to earn money. There are always has my father who is supporting the family. However, there was always a change in the life (impermanence).

My father had to stop working because of the company bankrupt. Whole family suddenly lost financial support. I was in my 3rd year of university student. Two of my brothers still study, one of the brother at oversea further study. It was so sudden until we have to save money in all the way. I still don't know how our family can survive. However, we still live on this situation until now with my parents little earning. Now, i am working and i also contribute some to support my family. This is the wonder of being a family. Help each other when in need, share with each other whether is sad or happy.

The most important thing in save money is - we must plan and have budget before we go shopping. Now we will have a list to buy goods. Then we will calculate how much money we can spend to buy goods. Then only we go out to buy. We also learn to remember the price of the goods to compare. Next time we will go to the most reasonable shop to buy the things we want. We discipline ourselves not to go to the department when we don't have anything to buy, restrict ourselves to buy unnecessary things to keep in the storeroom. Think twice before we buy the things, first we must think " do I really need this thing?" " am I going to use it everyday?" Then we will find most of the things we bought only use it once in a blue moon.

So, the rules of the thumb as following:

1. list down the goods we want to buy
2. have a budget the goods that we need to buy
3. compare the price at different shopping malls
4. don't ever go to the department that is not in the list
5. everytime before we buy anything, ask ourselves," Do i really need this thing?" and " Am i going to use it frequently?" . If all the answer is " no", better think twice before buy.

Enjoy buying for all my friends and don't end up buying unnecessary things to put in the storeroom.

Stand up! My friend.

Yesterday, i received a call from my dear friend while i was working. She sound very sad and depress. She uttered out hardly the few words, ' friend, i failed...'. A long silent between us through the phone. I could heard her sigh and breathing. As a friend, i needed to think properly before i send out my message correctly to her. I did not want to hurt her because of my wrong speech. It took me few minutes to ask her, ' You failed the exam?'. I tried to reconfirm with her to make sure i get the right message. "ya, i failed. Can you tell me, what should i do now? What can i do now?'. Her voice filled with sadness. I paused quite long to think about her question.

These was a very hard situation for my friend. She tried so hard and study for the exam. The " passing" of the exam give her the route to her future destination. She became aimless and hopeless after all this hardworking turned out to be nothing for her. These was how far i can understand her feeling. The worst thing that hurt her so much and deep- other people that she think they were not qualified enough to pass the exam- they passed. It was totally unfair regarding to her .

I felt so sorry to her for what had happening to her. As a friend, i tried my best to calm her down. However, i could not answer her the question,' What can she do now?'

After i had been through my primary school, secondary school, Form 6 until unversity. I had been sit for so many exam throughout my life. The total of exam countless. There were few major exam in my life that i had use a lot of effort to score it and to use it to achieve my target.

I was a very simple person, i will set an ambition and study hard. If i get fantastic score, i will go higher education to reach my target. If i manage to pass my exam without any outstanding grade. I will purchase my dream in a different way. So, i won't be so disappointed anyway. I still could remember when i sat for Form 5 exam final exam( SPM). When the result came out, i didn't score with flying color. I was happy with my "passed" exam but felt sad with the Chinese subject which was my favorite subject turned out to be grade "C". I expected to be better grade. Never mind, it was just a test. The result cannot decide my success in future. Even though the result has some effect in my future. As long as i passed my exam and i could continue my study in college or Form 6. However, there was an incident happen while i took my result slip that day. There was a girl shouting and crying in front of the assembly hall. I thought she scored badly in her exam. Then only i found out she not satisfied with her result because she didn't managed to score all 10 subjects grade" A" in her exam. She only scored 9 "A". Is she a perfectionist? I wondered during that time. There were some of my friend went home with sad and sour face. I knew by heart most probably they didn't manage to pass the exam.

Of cause, some of them still felt disagree and unfair with the result. The most unfair part-the person who did not qualified enough had passed the exam or gained acknowledgment. All this kind of fair or unfairness things always happen at our surrounding. Actually, we do not need to be angry or sad with those unfair issues. Everything happen in our life is a combination of many factors. Some of the factor will bring you a big effects or small effects, we will never know. The exam paper mark by the examiner. We lose marks may be due to our writing, we didn't get to the point or didn't go straight to the point, didn't write enough point to according to the total marks given and etc... There are a lot of factors from our own selves or may be the examiners. We will never know. So, why we have to upset with all the unfairness when we don't know what is the reason of the unfairness? Why don't we use our time efficiently to find out our strength and weaknesses in the study and strive again. We will not lose anything if we resit the exam, we will only need extra year to reach our target. It doesn't mean we won't achieve our ambition. We just take longer time compare to other people. Why upset about that? No one ask us to compare. There is no rules said we must finish in certain time than only can archive and success.

Just like the story of the turtle and the rabbit. No matter you are the fastest or the slowest you will reach the final destination also. We also will success if we are the turtle. No one can stop you for purchasing your dream. We are the only one who stop ourselves to look forward. If we allow people to influence our life, it is mean that we are control by other. It doesn't mean that we don't listen to other people advices and opinions. We must appreciate them by listen with wisdom. We have to digest first which advice and opinion is suitable and usable. Then we only apply it in our life. We are the one who walk the path, the people surrounding us - they are just passed by. They won't follow us or accompany us to the end of our life.

So, stand up my friend. All my friends stand up, raise up your spirit now. Don't let the failure or challenge in your life stop you to go forward. Face the challenges and walk through it. We will learn some lesson whatever challenges in the life. We can do it as long as we have faith and confidence in ourselves. Stand up! my friend.


" Do not resent the heavens for one's fate,
do not blame our problems on other.
realize the negative cause lies within by us,
can only be changed by us,
resolved by us with understanding, diligence, love. "


" So often, we forget to be thankful.
but while we all have problems,
experience difficult relationships,
fail in our undertakings,
there are many things in our live to be thankful for.
all we have to do is to slow down, take note, value them and be thankful."

Art of "speaking"

After get married, i had been "hiding" in the house( jobless) for few months. My friend that I used to talk to is -my spouse because my friends of circle become smaller and smaller after married. All my friends are working and now i live quite a distance from my hometown. So, the circle of my friends become many to few... Slowly slowly, i connect my friends through internet. I am so used to communicate using the electronic technologies until i lost the most basic and important tool- human communication.

I didn't find out i had lost such abilities until i start to go to work for my first. day.I realized i don't like to talk with people so much. I just smile with them then i continue my work. I totally like a "odd" person in the office. Sometime, i don't even have the courage to say thanks to the person who introduce the job to me. The worst part is- i intended to write a " thank you" letter to mail to the person. Luckily I don't need to knock my own head, my spouse already " give me a long lesson" in " how to deal and communicate with people?" . It was such a long lesson and it took me few days to digest it. Awkwardly, i managed to say thanks to them. Inside my heart, i am so grateful to their help but i just don't used to it.

The 1st lesson of communication in human relationship is- We must acknowledge people kindness in helping us even is a small act. Be grateful and appreciate people who help us. We should not just ignore or become egoistic that think people should help you in any way. We must remember that no people must give hand to us during the hardship. It is because they have the kind-heart that want to help us to get over the difficulties. They no need to help us because they won't get anythings and didn't think of get some benefits form helping us. Of course, we not need to buy a expensive to show our appreciation. A word of " thanks " is good enough.

"Even the smallest gift, given from the unselfish and caring heart, is a gift of great heart."

Second lesson of the "Art of speaking" i learned when i joined a discussion with our mentor. We were meeting with the mentor for some advice for our new activities. In the beginning, i had told all of you i lost the tool of communication. I was totally did not know the purpose of the meeting. I just like the outsider among them. Sitting there doing nothing in the discussion. My friends throw out a lot of question to the mentor. The advisor answered them with patience and compassion and wisely. I was the only one felt like the question were mindless or too common. One of the brother asked a statement to seek for the opinion. I quickly disagreed with him because the statement was not totally correct. The brother stunned and utter-less. But the adviser was very kind and answered his question. I didn't realized i had put the brother in a " embarrassed" condition. After the meeting finished, suddenly i felt like my head had been knock by the rock. I found out i had make a small mistake. They were having a interview session with the adviser so that could get more different opinion from different people. I was the only " innocent rabbit" that run into the group and caused a chaos to them. They have to ask a common question or current phenomenon in the society to the mentor so that they can get different idea and perspective. I shouldn't disagreed with the brother on the spot. I should be understand the condition and give the brother chances to talk and give opinion. Even though is not a interview session, whenever we have a discussion, we must give people opportunities to talk and give common. We as a listener should not disagree with them immediately, we should think first and try to understand what is the messages people try to convey to us. Second lesson is - give other people to talk and we be the active listener. Do not judge a person statement immediately, try to understand why they said so before we come to a conclusion.


"Listen to others non-judgmentally and impartially, without thoughts of condemnation,self -interest, evaluation. "

There are still a lot to learn the " art of speaking". Please think before we speak. Words can be like a sharp knife, once we said it out, the wound will never recover. There is always a wound.

Speak wisely.

"When about to speak of one to another,
consider first if you would say it directly to that person-
same intention
same words
same tone,
if not, it is best to remain silent. "