Thursday, September 3, 2009

Help people? Think about it first.

Helping people is not an easy task. We must consider a lot of factors before we help someone. We must always take this into concern that we should not take things personally when we help people and don't attach to it.

Once I had a friend caught with a illness. He needed someone to prepare lunch and dinner for him. He couldn't take the canteen foods because he needed some plain foods. So, I volunteered myself to help him. Now the issue come, frankly speaking, I seldom cook and I don't know how to cook. ( Here is the problem, I don't have the ability to help out but i offered myself.)

Ended up i needed to ask my friend help to cook for him. Then i became the runner. Ran to get the foods and ran to his place to pass him the food. I was busy running for few days for his lunch and dinner. Luckily he recovered after few day. ( before we help people we still must consider that, do we have the ability and time to help.)

A lot of us will think that we will be a best friend forever. Sorry to say that, the ending is not always is a happy ending.

Something happen, a misunderstanding between us. We turned out to be enemy. There was no chance for us to sit down and talk to settle the misunderstanding. I started to question myself, " Do I still willing to help people even though people tend to forget your kindness?" I realized that all the good deeds we have done, people have the choice to be thankful to us or the other hand, they might blame us and find fault to us because we mess up the things.

The lesson I had learned from the incident was before we help people we must think that do we have the ability and time to help. Help people with open heart. We should help people but don't expect there are something in return. Jesus helped so many people but only one of them said thank you to him. So, help people with pure and sincere heart.

Nowadays, we still must be careful when we want to help people, sometime we will be trap by the bad guy by using our kindness. There was a real story that was lady tried to help the boy that lost his way home. When she brought the child home, she suddenly fainted and unconscious. When she woke up, she was being raped in a empty house. So, we must have extra precaution and be careful before help people. Remember that take care our own safety first so that we won't fall into the prey and become the victim.

It doesn't mean that we should stop helping people but we must think about our safety first and make sure we don't fall into the prey.

There are a lot of ways to help people. Be with the person when the friend is sad and down. Speak kind words to your friends. Smile to everyone when we see anyone passing us. A small little action can create an echo. Do not look down every good deeds you had done, there are a endless effect that we cannot see by eyes.

" Our action affect others,
just like a single drop of water splashing on the ocean:
the resulting ripple sets all the other drops of water in the ocean morning
."

2 comments:

Y^-^Y said...

i agree with u.now i m being manipulated by ppl because of my kindness.I need to be cautious and have a strong heart to say "NO"!!

dayani said...

ya. just remember that help people with open heart and pure heart. always be aware about ur safety. And dont forget the other factor like do you have the ability and time to help people.
Sometime we need to say "no". If we keep on say "yes", ended up we cant help people and we also hurt because our ignorance.
u can do it.

 
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