Tuesday, September 8, 2009

"IF..., Then..."

Today, I had a chance to meet my " brother" that we had lost contact for 5 years. The amazing part was i found him by using the " face book".

We hardly contact with each other during this 5 years. Both of us were busy. ( Actually, when i start to recall back the 5 years. I don't think i was very busy. Most of the time i was lazy, day dreaming, doing something else that i hardly can remember.)

A lot of things between us are change. He gain weight and looks " bigger size" than last time. Surprisingly, he can talk more than me compare to him last time. Usually, I was the active part (talkative) and he was the passive one (quiet). Now, i have " beaten" by him. He become more knowledgeable and funny. 5 years at oversea can really "brush" him up.

We are lucky that we still have the chance to meet up after 5 years. Fortunately, we never have any "fight" and "war" last time. If we had big quarrel last time, and we didn't manage to meet up, i will no have chance to say sorry to him and ask for forgiveness. I will always feel "regret".

I still remember i had a " girlfriend" during my secondary school. There was a quarrel happen and we didn't talk since then. I couldn't recall back what had gone through between us. We were very close until we called each other " mother and daughter". We cried and laughed together. However, I lost the memory that " how we started fighting and became worse?". I blamed myself for forgetting her. I angry myself why I didn't appreciate her and didn't ask her for forgiveness. Unfortunately, I can't even find her using "face book". I always regret for being such childish last time. If we managed to settle the problem last time, we will meet up someday for gathering. Now, just left the "memory"...

I realized there is no " if ......, then everything will be different" . If there is "if", something will change but we will not satisfy with the result. Human being always not content with the choice they make. So, if we have done something wrong, we must faster "apologize" to the person. Please don't wait, if not we will end up regretting. Human make mistake is very common and normal. Is nothing to be shame to say " sorry" except you want to be sorry for your remaining life.

There were a mother and son, they always quarrel. Hardly they can sit down and talk. Anything also can ended up as a big fight. One day, they started to fight again because of the son always went out and came home late. The mother scolded him and cursed her son," stupid son! always against me, later you will involve in an accident! Don't come home anymore if you don't listen to me!". She always scolded the bad words to the son but she didn't expect the "curse" became real. The son died in an accident after the quarreled. His motor was hit by a car. She felt so sorry and didn't expected her "curse" will come true. She didn't want her son to die, she scolded him because she too angry. She thought the son will listen to her if she scolded him. But it didn't turn out that way. The son became more rebellious. Ended up the son really never come home. She so regret she had said the bad words, " if she knew the accident will happen, she will not fight with him and scolded him" . But there is no "if" for her.

We always take everything as granted. We never be grateful and appreciate the things we have. A lot of things we need to make a choice. How we know which one is the good choice? Just think after 20 years when you look back in this incident, what you wish you can do at that time. Maybe you will have better idea. Remember that, there is no "if". So, we must always be mindful with our speech, action and thought. And the most important person - is the person with us now.

Be good and nice to the person with you now, treat every gathering as the last time, then you will not fight with them or screw up the friendship. Because we will never know what will happen after " now". Maybe after the gathering, one of us will died because of sickness or accident. We will never know. If did happen, we will not have second chance. There is no "take 2" in life like the movie making.

So, take good care of our parents and family, be nice to all the friend.

Be careful when we talk and behave.

Think more good things about other people.

When we start to do now, we will no regret. Care the person that with us now. Think twice before we say or do anything. Make it as a habit. Then we will no regret.

" in our last moment, we will ask: What have i accomplished? Did i make a difference?
Do not wait till then - Ask NOW."


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