090909 was a auspicious day, a lot of couples choose to tie their knot on that day. Wish them have a happy marriage and everlasting relationship.
On the other hand, there was an incident happen on that same day that stirred my mind...
I went out with my sister in law to buy foods for our dinner. When we on the way walked to the supermarket, I saw an elderly man walked in a very slow pace with an umbrella and a walking stick. I felt sympathy for him and I wondered did he need some help. I wondered...
After we finished buying the foods, we crossed over the road because we wanted to buy some snack foods for our supper. On the way walked to our car, we saw the elderly man again standing at the road side. It was so dangerous. First thing came across into our mind was- Did he need our help to cross the road? ( It was funny that when we saw a elderly person, the first things come across to over mind always is -- they need help to cross over the road.)
We approached the man and asked him, does he need help to cross over the road. He said he was trying to stop a taxi to send him home but there was no taxi willing to send him home. So, we decided to send him home. I was waiting with him at the roadside while my sister went to take the car.
He told me he had to buy his dinner himself because his son went for dating. The son will come home only by 10pm and mostly will not buy foods for him. By the time, he will be very hungry and ended up didn't eat anything. He said he now 80 years old plus and the son 50 years old plus. He has no energy to "fight" with the son. The wife had passed away and left him with the son. He wished the wife could passed away after Chinese new year, but she left him earlier. Currently no people really take care of him.
I was so sympathize and empathize him. He need someone to be a listener and share his story. Just a short while, he told me a lot of things about his family. I helped him to get into the car and he said usually people scolded him for being slow. He took more effort in walking compare to us. Our one step took him 10-15 steps. So, we can imagine how slow he walk and how long he take to reach a place.
On the way to his house, he continued to tell us about him... until he reached the house.
One day, i will grow old like him... I will be alone... I will have a lot of sickness... I cannot prevent all this happen to me in the future.
There is " The Code of Disciplines for the Layman", name as " Sigalovada sutta" is the Buddha teaching which emphasized social relations among various member of a society. There are 6 quarters; the parents as the East, teachers as the South, wife and husband as the West, friends and associates as the North, servant and employees as the Nadir, ascetics and brahmins as the Zenith. We can learn from the " Sigalovada sutta" how to play our roles as a parents, children, spouses and other. I will list down 3 roles as parents, children and spouses.
Parents and Child ( East)
A) in 5 ways, householder's son, a child should minister to his parents as the East:
A) in 5 ways, householder's son, should a wife as the West be ministered by a Husband:
Finally, i wish the elderly man has a happy life. May he be well and healthy. Hope there are people have the compassion to help people especially the elderly one. Don't forget that, we will grow old one day, we need families and people to take care of us in the future. So, we must have the initiative to help people in the first place. The connection will start and continuation will follow.
" As a mother protects her only son with her life,
we too can cultivate a boundless love for all beings.
eventually our love will pervade the whole world."
On the other hand, there was an incident happen on that same day that stirred my mind...
I went out with my sister in law to buy foods for our dinner. When we on the way walked to the supermarket, I saw an elderly man walked in a very slow pace with an umbrella and a walking stick. I felt sympathy for him and I wondered did he need some help. I wondered...
After we finished buying the foods, we crossed over the road because we wanted to buy some snack foods for our supper. On the way walked to our car, we saw the elderly man again standing at the road side. It was so dangerous. First thing came across into our mind was- Did he need our help to cross the road? ( It was funny that when we saw a elderly person, the first things come across to over mind always is -- they need help to cross over the road.)
We approached the man and asked him, does he need help to cross over the road. He said he was trying to stop a taxi to send him home but there was no taxi willing to send him home. So, we decided to send him home. I was waiting with him at the roadside while my sister went to take the car.
He told me he had to buy his dinner himself because his son went for dating. The son will come home only by 10pm and mostly will not buy foods for him. By the time, he will be very hungry and ended up didn't eat anything. He said he now 80 years old plus and the son 50 years old plus. He has no energy to "fight" with the son. The wife had passed away and left him with the son. He wished the wife could passed away after Chinese new year, but she left him earlier. Currently no people really take care of him.
I was so sympathize and empathize him. He need someone to be a listener and share his story. Just a short while, he told me a lot of things about his family. I helped him to get into the car and he said usually people scolded him for being slow. He took more effort in walking compare to us. Our one step took him 10-15 steps. So, we can imagine how slow he walk and how long he take to reach a place.
On the way to his house, he continued to tell us about him... until he reached the house.
One day, i will grow old like him... I will be alone... I will have a lot of sickness... I cannot prevent all this happen to me in the future.
There is " The Code of Disciplines for the Layman", name as " Sigalovada sutta" is the Buddha teaching which emphasized social relations among various member of a society. There are 6 quarters; the parents as the East, teachers as the South, wife and husband as the West, friends and associates as the North, servant and employees as the Nadir, ascetics and brahmins as the Zenith. We can learn from the " Sigalovada sutta" how to play our roles as a parents, children, spouses and other. I will list down 3 roles as parents, children and spouses.
Parents and Child ( East)
A) in 5 ways, householder's son, a child should minister to his parents as the East:
- being supported i shall support them,
- i shall do their duties,
- i shall keep the family lineage,
- i shall act in such a way as to be worthy if my inheritance,
- furthermore, i shall offer alms in honour of my departed relatives.
- they dissuade them from evil,
- they persuade them to do good,
- they teach them an art,
- they would give them in marriage to a suitable partners
- at the proper time, they would hand over to them their inheritance.
A) in 5 ways, householder's son, should a wife as the West be ministered by a Husband:
- by courtesy
- by not despising her
- by faithfulness
- by handing over authority to her
- by providing her with ornaments
- she performs her duties in perfect order
- she is hospitable to visitors
- she is faithful
- she protects what he brings
- she is industrious and not lazy in discharging her duties
Finally, i wish the elderly man has a happy life. May he be well and healthy. Hope there are people have the compassion to help people especially the elderly one. Don't forget that, we will grow old one day, we need families and people to take care of us in the future. So, we must have the initiative to help people in the first place. The connection will start and continuation will follow.
" As a mother protects her only son with her life,
we too can cultivate a boundless love for all beings.
eventually our love will pervade the whole world."
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