Overcoming difficulties

how to overcome difficulties?in this world weather you are young, old, tall short, rich or poor you will have to go thru difficulties. how does this happen? according to Buddha, we have difficulties because of this 3 element. these elements are:

a. birth, sickness, old age, dying and death. we have to go thru this no matter what we are. we have to be birth to this world. birth brings a lot of pain to our mothers and ourselves. Once we grow up we face with problem like sickness in both physical and mental form. physical sickness is like having flu, fever or some more serious ones like hypertension or diabetes. mental sickness is like when we lost our love ones, work and study stress. we stress up ourselves on almost everything from buying a car to having children to worry about our loves one, worry about the security of our loved ones. when we came to old age there will be a lot of pain, sickness and being left out from the society. finally dying and death. no matter who we are we cannot escape this.

b. The real reason for having all the suffering like what mention above is because we have attachment.we have attachment to both things we like and things we dont like. when we attach to this we will suffer when its separated from us. look at yourself in the mirror. you attach to your work, car, house, status, wife, children, family. you attach to your routine life style. some even attach to thier good feeling of sad, happy or even anger. that is why some people have to go to the movies so that they can satisfy themselves. some people attach to the happy feeling that they will be easily anger when they feel that other feeling started coming in. some people have attachment not to see some one they dont like so when some one whom he/she dont like come in that person will be angry or have ill will and sometimes hatred.

c. because of attachment and that we have attach for so long on this state we dont want to leave them. we come to crave for this attachment. for example, when a person likes an ice cream so much they begun to have dreams on the ice cream and have to have them everyday. the minutes the normal routine of having ice-cream changes, that person suffers.

After looking thru, this 3 elements are inter related and there are ways to overcome this problem. we just have to learn to disiplin ourselves and remind ourselves on this 8 formula of rightfullness:

a. right thoughtfulness
b. right speech
c. right understanding
d. right livelihood
e. right effort
f. right concentration
g. right mindfulness
h. right action

i will explain more in the next blogs. if any of the readers have any question you can write to me or leave a comment on this blog. i appreciate your participation to make ourselves a better person by sharing your points and view.