My Personal Hairstylist

Another method for us to save money. Yes, be your own hairstylist.

I have being helping my spouse by cutting his hair for few months, lucky that we have a very old shaver but still usable. Even though, the shaver something functionable, sometime just can't use it.

The true is, I never have any experience in cutting hair even though my dad was a barber before. ( My dad was my personal hair stylist since young till i reached high school.) He is very good in boy cut, until now he still keeping all his hair cut stuff. I missed those day that when i was in secondary school, and i wished that i could had a nice girl cut, just like those other girl. Guessed what, It ended up became a super short boy cut. It wasn't a good feeling when everyone in the school looked at you with funny feeling. However, I had gone through all the really "Bad Hair" day. Thanks dad for giving me free haircut.

Now, I became my spouse hair stylist. It is not easy because i never use the shaver before. Wow, just a little careless my spouse hair will have few hole as decoration. I wish i won't spoil the hair. Hah, first few times i cut my spouse hair. His colleague asked him where he went for hair cut, we all band the hair salon. Oops, my spouse just answer without hesitation, "my wife is the hairstylist." His colleague silence after heard the answer. I bet him won't ask anymore even though my spouse has a bad hair cut.

It is a good experience cutting my spouse hair. I learn to be patience and test new method of cutting on his hair. It really save us some money. Nowadays, guy hair cut cost RM10-15 per cut. Not need to compare, girl cut is more more expensive compare to guy.

I have refuse to go for hair cut just because i know it is very expensive even thought just do some trimming. So, my spouse has brave himself to be my hair stylist. Of course, i was so afraid he will cut too short or give me a few holes for decoration. Surprisingly, he came out a very nice hair cut for me. Not bad, we have save RM50 hair cut for both of us. My friend just trimmed her hair which cost her RM35. We become each other personal hairstylist, cut as your wish.

Come, be your own hairstylist. It can save your money.

An Appologize

When I grown up and become independent, I know that someone owe my mom an apologies.... Not only one but a lot a lot...

My mom is a kindhearted lady. A very hardworking mom, sister, and daughter to the family. She likes to help people and without complained even though other still put blame on her. Where on earth we can find a good person like this. I am glad that she is my mom and always be.

However, someone broke my mom heart very deep... I can feel it even my mom never said a word. Until one day, when all of us planned and decided to help our relatives that were in dilemma, " someone" burst out, "Why I need to involve and give money to help them? You all never help me when I had problems last time. I angry you all and you especially because you plan all this!". It was really hurt, I don't know how my mom handle her feeling but she deserve an " apologize" from her. As far as I know, my mom help "someone" a lot in the passed, she even helped the person in finance. We are not from a rich family even we don't have enough in finance but we willing to help if our relative in trouble.

So many years and the misunderstanding accumulating. No chance to explain and solve the "knots". One misunderstanding equal to a knot. Thousand of misunderstanding, thousand of knots. When we can solve it and open up all the knots? I don't know we are given any chance to solve the problem, because "someone" had diagnosed with third stage cancer. Someone refused all the western and eastern medicine treatment. We tried, my mom tried to help but "someone" scolded my mom for being busy body.

Few months later, "someone" passed away in a sudden. All of us shocked, and I was not in town for the funeral. Then only I have realized that, we don't have " forgive and forget" in our dictionary. If we start to forgive each other, we will not be upset by other people speak, action and thought. We must learn to forgive and understand others, because all of us are unique. We have different identity because we are from different background, education, growing up environment, influences.... A lot of differences between all of us, that is why we are so unique. That is how the attraction and opposition occur between people. If we are the same, same background, education level, environment... I bet you all can imagine that. Initially, we are happy we are same, slowly we feel bore with it. The differences make our life beautiful, full of colour just like rainbow.

An apologize is not as important as the lesson i have learned. Forgive is a endless love toward beings, practice it and the world will always in peace and harmony. Forgiving other is not easy especially our own self. Learn to let go and forgiving then we will see some unexpected effect.

Rest in peace My " someone", we forgive you and hope you forgive us. The most important, please also forgive yourself.


" Whenever we hate someone, we are hating some part of ourselves that we can see in that person. We don't get worked up about anything that is not in ourselves. " - Hermann Hesse

Everyone is My teacher

Almost every Sunday i need to attend a 3 hours class. I have been attend the class since last year so i need to sacrifice a lot for attending the class. For example i can't go for long holiday if crash with the classes.

Last Sunday 60 of us attended the class which was a new speaker. However it turned our to be different that we were expected. Few of us felt bored with the talk. One of my friend even disappointed because he rushed back from outstation just to attend the class and he had a unfinished assignment that need to pass up the next day but the class didn't manage to reach his expectation.

Frankly speaking, the class really upset me because i had expected high from the speaker and it didn't reach our level. Surprisingly, the speaker pointed out two very important points to us.

The 1st point:

The speaker asked us:" Why the Japanese bow down 45 degree everytime they meet people?"

All of us gave different answer, finally one of the participants answered:" They treat every one as their "sinsei" ( teacher). " Everyone is our teacher because we can learn something from everyone no matter they are your best friend or your enermy. For example, If someone hurt you and failed you in your past, if we went throught the hardship, we become more tougher than last time. So, do you think they still your enemies? It is good that we can reflect on it. Another example was, strangers that occur in the media, they also can be our teacher. All the people that trying to help the people in Haiti, we also can learn from their action. Everyone is our teacher even animal also can be our teacher. I watched a video sent by my friend, that was a dog risk his life and tried to save his friend (dog) in the middle of the highway which was hurt after an run and hit. I was shock after i watch the video. I wish to share with all of you but sorry that i had delete the email. SO, everyone can be our teacher, it depend on how we look at it.

The 2nd point i learned that day is:

Everyone of us have their own perception and expectation. Because of difference in perception adn expectation, people tend to have conflict. The meaning of conflict i learn that day - 2 party have disaggrement in a same issue. The key word is - " disaggreement".

One story was given by the speaker; the husband was hungry and told the wife that he went out to eat. The wife thought that the husband will bring food for her even thought she didn't ask him to do so. When the husband came back with empty hand, the wife became angry. The husband was confused that why the wife angry suddently and without reason. Then the conflict arise. Why? The wife perception is- if the husband love her, he will buy food for her without asking. So, she has expected the husband to bring her food- this is expectation. Because of different perception in each invidual, then the " expectation" will rise up. This is all the conflict start with. There was no wrong and right when conflict happen, it is because of the 2 parties have different perception lead to different expectation then turn out to be conflict between 2 parties.

Everyone of us is unique because we raise up in different backgroup, different education, different culture and a lot different the way we have been brought up. So, we no need to be upset and angry towards other party when conflict happen. It happen is because of different perception and expectation. So, the conflict is not the problem. The main problem is- the person involve in the conflict never try to deal and solve the conflict.

It was quite fascinating after the class finished, if i think back again. The class was not that boring and disappointed, it was my perception and expectation that make the class not interested. I did learn something from the speaker, it was really a great " A-Ha". Suddently the light strike at my head. The speaker is my teacher because he enlightened me. My friend that was dissapointed is my teacher too, because of him i will not tried to find the goodness in the class.

Thanks for everyone who has passed by my life. All of you are my great teacher. Thanks for everything that all of you had gave me. Thanks

Angel on Earth

Wow, It have been long long time i didnt post anything in the blog... Why is this happening? Probably i have been giving myself a lot of excuses after i start working and adopt a lovely dog( now i called him Mitra, mean "friend").

It have been one and a half month we have Mitra. It is a tough job especially for me, because this is the 1st time i keep a dog. It is always my wish to have a dog. Now, my wish come true but it do not turn out to be what i have expected. He is a very super-duper active dog. His favorite activities is- jumping non-stop--- towards us. The neighbour that pass by our house will think that he is attacking us because when he starts playing it will be like rustling that we watch in the TV show. My husband used to plays with him until rolling on the group. Me, most of the time standing at the side and watch them playing. I am so afraid to join in because everytime after we play with him, both of us will ended up bruises and wound at the hands and legs. It is very painful indeed.

He is a very smart fellow too. He always show pitty face when we dont have time to play with him or walk him. He really good in acting. We always fool by his pitty, sad face. When we attend to his sad face, without our notice, 1st act he will jump on us. According to my husband, i have a super slow reflex. Undeniable, I have to agree with the statement. I knew that when he going to jump at me, but somehow I just standing there without blocking his "attack". That is why most of the time i just stand at the side and watch. My husband even said, " Mitra can train your reflex. " I still thinking the suggestion given by my husband. Hard to say "yes" to that kind of suggestion.

He is really our "angel".

Because of him, we have a chance to meet alot of dog lovers to teach us some tips to train our Mitra. we have more friend and more topics to talk with friends. He brings a lot of angels to us.

Because of him, i started to notice about the problem of stray animals facing now and we too can give a hand by foster the animal, bring them to vet to spay-neuter, find them a new home...

Because of him, we spend most of the time together in the house with Mitra. Less shopping and movie and of cause save money.

He is our angel. Even though initially he cause us a lot of headache and time spend. However, he always make us laugh because of his cute face.

We want to thank him for becoming our new member. We always love him and care for you- Mitra

" Think occasionally of the suffering which you spare yourself the sight.

Compassion encompasses all living beings, not just human beings" ~Albert Schweitzer (1875-1965) Doctor, Humanitarian, Nobel Peace Prize 1953.