Almost every Sunday i need to attend a 3 hours class. I have been attend the class since last year so i need to sacrifice a lot for attending the class. For example i can't go for long holiday if crash with the classes.
Last Sunday 60 of us attended the class which was a new speaker. However it turned our to be different that we were expected. Few of us felt bored with the talk. One of my friend even disappointed because he rushed back from outstation just to attend the class and he had a unfinished assignment that need to pass up the next day but the class didn't manage to reach his expectation.
Frankly speaking, the class really upset me because i had expected high from the speaker and it didn't reach our level. Surprisingly, the speaker pointed out two very important points to us.
The 1st point:
The speaker asked us:" Why the Japanese bow down 45 degree everytime they meet people?"
All of us gave different answer, finally one of the participants answered:" They treat every one as their "sinsei" ( teacher). " Everyone is our teacher because we can learn something from everyone no matter they are your best friend or your enermy. For example, If someone hurt you and failed you in your past, if we went throught the hardship, we become more tougher than last time. So, do you think they still your enemies? It is good that we can reflect on it. Another example was, strangers that occur in the media, they also can be our teacher. All the people that trying to help the people in Haiti, we also can learn from their action. Everyone is our teacher even animal also can be our teacher. I watched a video sent by my friend, that was a dog risk his life and tried to save his friend (dog) in the middle of the highway which was hurt after an run and hit. I was shock after i watch the video. I wish to share with all of you but sorry that i had delete the email. SO, everyone can be our teacher, it depend on how we look at it.
The 2nd point i learned that day is:
Everyone of us have their own perception and expectation. Because of difference in perception adn expectation, people tend to have conflict. The meaning of conflict i learn that day - 2 party have disaggrement in a same issue. The key word is - " disaggreement".
One story was given by the speaker; the husband was hungry and told the wife that he went out to eat. The wife thought that the husband will bring food for her even thought she didn't ask him to do so. When the husband came back with empty hand, the wife became angry. The husband was confused that why the wife angry suddently and without reason. Then the conflict arise. Why? The wife perception is- if the husband love her, he will buy food for her without asking. So, she has expected the husband to bring her food- this is expectation. Because of different perception in each invidual, then the " expectation" will rise up. This is all the conflict start with. There was no wrong and right when conflict happen, it is because of the 2 parties have different perception lead to different expectation then turn out to be conflict between 2 parties.
Everyone of us is unique because we raise up in different backgroup, different education, different culture and a lot different the way we have been brought up. So, we no need to be upset and angry towards other party when conflict happen. It happen is because of different perception and expectation. So, the conflict is not the problem. The main problem is- the person involve in the conflict never try to deal and solve the conflict.
It was quite fascinating after the class finished, if i think back again. The class was not that boring and disappointed, it was my perception and expectation that make the class not interested. I did learn something from the speaker, it was really a great " A-Ha". Suddently the light strike at my head. The speaker is my teacher because he enlightened me. My friend that was dissapointed is my teacher too, because of him i will not tried to find the goodness in the class.
Thanks for everyone who has passed by my life. All of you are my great teacher. Thanks for everything that all of you had gave me. Thanks
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